What in his normal routine has changed? I know here because it is rainy seaon has been unreasonably cold we haven't been able to go outside as much plus they have both been sick so we have seen a little bit of regression. I wonder if it is the same where you are at.
I agree with the cold being a big issue, they feel uncomfortable and gross and don't know how to express those feelings.
Jacob had a cold a couple weeks ago and he became a bear, he is only just calming down. I was blaming it on all sorts of things from school to something at home but now he has calmed down I know it was his cold.
On a side note: Me thinking I was being a good mother because he was miserable and couldn't breath and I knew he needed to sleep thought it would be a good idea to give him Neocitrin, WRONG!! He was insane! I hadn't seen him like that in two years, I honestly thought we were heading for the hospital, he was throwing things, threatening me, suicidal, you name it he was doing it.
He finally calmed down about 5 hours later and slept the clock around!
Sigh, that is on the list of never to give to him again !
Nothing here is different really, its not cold really yet, in fact its unseasonably warm.
I dont know, He's not even interested in going outside. I am just having major problems with him all the sudden. He bit me this morning after i reprimanded him for beating on his brother. He really seems to be having problems with his little brother, always hitting and pushing him. And now hitting and biting me??!!!
still having daily accidents in pants, he went months without having accidents. I did hang up a potty chart this morning, ( this is what we used for potting training the first time around.)
This actually all started before the cold came on and I just don't get it. he really seems stressed about something and i don't know what.
Carol
By accidents, is it pee or poop? Cause if it's pee, that can still be a cold. And that is one of the signs someone is getting a cold, their bladder gets a tad overactive.
I would still give him some time to see if he calms down after the cold is finished. But hitting and biting is not acceptable. We use time outs here and that kind of behaviour is an automatic 15 min time out. Jacob knows this, we even have a chart that says how long a time out for what behaviour.
We use 123 magic. We say that's one, that's two, that's three take 5.
Whatever undesirable behaviour they are using you say stop doing that, if they don't you say that's one. If it continues, that's two, again that's 3 take 5. It works like a charm here. We have no idea why but it does.
There is a book and a video, we borrowed the video from children's hosp library. We thought it was insane but were totally amazed. We use it for all 3 boys.
2 of them NT kids.
He is having poo accidents, only tiny pee accidents from not getting there in time, he has been holding his behind while making a bowel movement as if he getting some sensation from it......my biggest fear is it turns into a compulsion. I'm trying not to worry though, so far today He is either holding it or doens't have to go because he hasn't had bm yet today.
As far as the other behaviors we have no system here, Time outs are an ugly battle, I have to hold both boys down for time out. we stopped using that method because it became a really bad experience for all of us. I am mostly using Michaels computer time as a reinforcer, its wearing thin though... Seems that these types of reinforcers only work for so long before they become inaffective.
Sigh
I think we are headed for behavioral therapy in the near future. I plan on trying magic 123 and see how that works. I've heard others here having great success with it.
Carol
Is something happening at school that is stressing him out? I don't know what you have tried with him but a couple things we have done to help with the pottying (my ds still has occasional accidents but is starting to get it) is we use a chart that everytime he goes potty he gets to put a sticker on the chart and then at the end of the week is able to trade it for a treat or video game (2 weeks). if he can earn enough stickers to fill the row. As for timeouts they are a battle on this end as well and we end up in pretty much the same situation. The only thing that seems to be working for us is that we take away 10 minutes of video game time everytime he is bad and then if he loses that he has to do simple chores like emptying the utensils out of the dishwasher. For my youngest ds it is kind of the same thing they are always battling each other. Good luck.
My 4 yr old will usually get usually get worse when he has a growth spurt.Michael seems to be having alot of issues in the past 2-3 weeks. He is having accidents in his pants daily. Beating up his little brother with the slightest bit of anger. Having major tantrums, kicking me, screaming, and hitting. And is also yelling at everyone in the house, ordering everyone around and demanding things.
Nothing has changed here except that he's had a cold for a few days now. I just don't know whats going on with him. Is this a regression period???
The cold...aka our arch nemesis. Payne ALWAYS acts out and regresses with them. Ugh. We try to get a handle on it at the very beginning so it ends quickly. Maybe the cold has caused an ear infection. When my children had earinfections it made them really crabby but my son with autism would really act out.